Tuesday, June 28, 2016


Do you hide behind a mask? Most of us have a public persona and a secret persona. We hide behind a mask to conceal our flaws. Or what we believe are flaws. Afraid if exposed we'll be rejected.

It's believed we chose our vulnerabilities and so-called flaws before coming into physical life to influence and attract correlating experiences. Most often these flaws are pointed out to us by others. In essence, we're conditioned into believing we're flawed. In adopting this negative view starts the shadow effect. A rejecting of aspects of ourself.

The problem with rejecting aspects of ourself is the powerful attraction we send out for more situations that trigger exposing these flaws. Yes, until we accept all aspects of ourself we will continue to attract more of the same. However, there's one very major flaw. We may not possess all the negative flaws others have convinced us we possess.

Define yourself, don't allow others to define you. We all have aspects of ourself that we chose to refine during this lifetime. After all, life is about growth. We all have a shadow hiding behind a mask. Don't allow others to define what your shadows are you uncover them yourself.

Most often your life challenges are revealed through what you notice in others. The flaws you see in others are more often flaws you possess. If you're honest with yourself and examine the faults you see in others you realize these are your hidden shadows. This recognition is spiritual. It's guidance exposing to you your life lessons.

Ignoring our shadow self only hurts ourself. We will continue to attract events, situations, and similar people into our life. What we resist will persist. Our shadow self will not retreat but continually expose itself through self-destructive behaviors. When we finally accept our shadow self we set ourself free. We learn the lessons we chose to overcome.  

Accept your authentic self. Once you do, you will experience the totality of love. We were meant to be who we are. Learn more about the Shadow Effect.

Friday, June 17, 2016


When you ask spirits for guidance they always respond. The problem is most people don't recognize communication. Or they dismiss coincidences and synchronicities as nothing more than wishful thinking. The key is to pay attention to everything. And don't dismiss anything.

Spirits will communicate any way they can to get your attention. Watch for reoccurring themes. For example, you start receiving emails on a particular subject, seeing the same commercial or television show advertised, numbers or a particular thought keeps coming to mind. All these experiences are spirits trying to communicate with you. Rule of thumb, if something captures your attention it was meant to, don't dismiss it. This recognition is our innate ability to communicate with the spirit world.

When you start acknowledging communication and taking action to investigate your connection to spirit will grow stronger. And don't forget to add meditation into your daily practice. Ask for guidance then sit quietly and listen. Then, of course, pay attention to signs that enter your day. Carry a small journal to jot down anything that feels like a message. You may not understand right away but before you know it the message will be clear.

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

USE CAUTION when speaking "I AM"

Most people have heard about the powerful attracting energy of "I am" affirmations and statements. If you're not aware be careful what follows your "I am" proclamations.

When you affirm "I am" you are sending out a powerful attracting energy. In essence, you're proclaiming to the universal power that you already possess what you desire, which increases your manifestations.

The real power behind these "I am" statements is the creation of beliefs. Our beliefs influence our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. All of which affect what we attract into our physical life experience. It's what we believe that creates our experience.

When you want to change a negative belief about yourself, the world, or others, change your "I am" statements. When you hear yourself say I am angry, sad, offended, hurt, frustrated, not good enough, too old, stop midsentence. Then say to yourself, this character named (insert your name) believes this, but not my higher self.

Know that we are divine souls living between two worlds. One foot, if you will, here on earth, and the other in the spirit world. The character we find ourself playing in this lifetime is our challenge. Our challenge to overcome and to become deliberate creators.

Each character has specific past life influences and current life influences. Our goal is to dissolve the illusion of beliefs our character holds with those of our higher self. Ultimately connecting with our higher self and who we truly are.

Our higher self is the pure essence of divine love. It does not judge, demand, or require anything. So the next time you find yourself proclaiming an "I am" statement speak from the viewpoint of your higher self. Before long we will transform our negative beliefs and our life experience.

Wednesday, March 16, 2016


If you are anything like me, you've read countless books on creating your reality. For most, this craze started with the book "The Secret". I remember when I first heard of this simple how-to book. Excited I rushed out and purchased it reading its simplistic words of wisdom.

After reading this book several times my excitement grow. Its message was simple. Easy in fact. However, once I started to implement these daily practices I realized the concept was simple, but not the habit of practice.

Breaking old habits isn't impossible though it takes constant effort. I guess like most people I was looking for an easy road to happiness and riches. Though quickly found out this wasn't the case.

The problem I discovered was beating myself up when I failed to be positive or keep up with my daily practices. My frustration grew. How was I going to attract into my life what I desired if I wasn't consistent? I knew I needed to let go of each day and start fresh each morning without judgment. It didn't mattered what I did or didn't do the day before each day would be a clean slate.

Once I started viewing my progress this way I noticed positive changes. I was no longer adding negativity to my stumbles. I brushed myself off and refocused. The secret is living in the now, whether that means minute to minute or day to day. Don't beat yourself up when you veer off track. Get up, brush yourself off, and try, try again! Doing this is the secret to success.

Saturday, February 27, 2016


Play the act as if game! If you've been studying the law of attraction you know belief is essential. First you must know what you want. Be specific as to what you want and don't worry about how it will happen. The universal powers will take care of the how. However, you must reaffirm your desires daily.

Reaffirming your desires means nurturing your desired manifestations daily. You can meditate on them, visualize living them, take active steps in the direction of accomplishing them.

Make this daily nurturing fun by playing games such as the act as if game. Invite a few like-minded friends over and agree to act as if you already live with your desired manifestations. Talk about the escalating success of your dream business, your dream relationship, fame, best-selling novel, dream car, tell everyone about your new home, etc. Pretend to get phone calls. Act as if your manifestations have arrived. It's fun! And it raises your positive energy vibration, which attracts your dream life into reality faster.

More Ideas
1. Tell your friends how wonderful it is to live your dream life.
2. Talk about your successful business. Be specific.
3. Describe your book signing tour and ideas you have for your next best-selling book.
4. Tell everyone about your new loving relationship with your dream partner.
5. Pretend you receive a phone call from your stock broker.
6. Talk about how great it is to drive your exotic car.
7. Tell everyone about the fantastic offer you received for your home.

Use your imagination and have fun with it!

Sunday, January 24, 2016


It most likely began generations ago, repeatedly carried down from parent to child. At least, that's what most medical journals indicate. Being a scapegoat myself, I can tell you it's not an easy role in life to play. There are many reasons why a child is singled out. It could be we remind them of someone they disliked or have a personality that calls them out. I'm not going to dig into the numerous reasons why since I'm not a licensed medical practitioner or psychologist. If you desire a more in-depth explanation you can check out the links below.

What I do know is we are not the "bad ones" or "trouble makers." We are simply victims of bullying. And I don't believe labeling them as bad will help us to heal. Keep in mind, they too may have been scapegoats in their childhood. Regardless, we are all doing the best we know how to do. Don't mistaken this comment as an excuse for their behavior, because it is not.

In order for me to heal the deep wounds that defined me, I needed to disconnect. After numerous failed attempts to resolve the issue verbally, I finally realized my only option was to walk away. Cutting ties may not be your choice and that's for you to decide. Our commonality is being scapegoats, however, it ends there since every situation has its own unique circumstance.

I believe we all have a mission in life. Prior to coming into a physical form, we set the stage so that we can experience certain emotions. The rejection, blame, frustration and anger I experienced being a scapegoat prepared me for a much greater purpose. These valuable lessons were essential for me to accomplish my ultimate goal. Remember, everything in life has a purpose. It's up to us to find out the 'why'.

Are you a Family Scapegoat?

Friday, December 11, 2015


Today is my first chemo treatment. I am very nervous about the side effects. Hopefully, all the medications the doctors prescribe prevents or, at least, keeps them to a minimum.  Once I know what to expect I think I'll feel more at ease with the next five months of treatment ahead of me. By the end of April chemo will be complete and radiation treatments will begin.

After two months of radiation, all that remains is reconstruction. Hopefully, by the end of the summer, I'll feel normal again. I've never wanted time to pass as quickly as I do today. I just keep visualizing myself looking back at this experience as a successful journey of life. With an emphasis on "Successful".